Human Love

Human love can be a messy part to life. Allah subhana wa ta'ala has decreed upon us rules to our intimacy and relations and we must do our best to follow those.
Prophet Mohammad, sallallahu wa salaam, showed us what that should look like. Even his wife Hazrat Aisha, ra, described in detail what it meant to love a husband, this leaves women with a model of how to act appropiately.
In detail the saints and wise walay left us with a distinct knowledge of the types of love and lust we feel and where they come from.

A: When love/lust/desire comes from Nafess, stomach. It is just like a gas. It smell very bad. It makes us unfordable. It takes away all good experiences. One gets in a bad mood and one must go to toilet. When one is finished with this feeling they quickly want to leave it.

B, If it comes from Aqhel, brain. It is mostly from shytan. It is very selfish feeling. It sees only itself and self interest. One must be slap on the face to weak up. Your desires may overwhelm you and you will not see the other person, but only see your desires to control that person and the relationship.

C: If it comes from Qhalb, heart, it is spiritual. All it's feelings are from Allah (swt). A sense of gratefulness, appreciation, patience and submission. It weighs everything with the purpose of our life in this world. There are no senses of self centrism there. It actually seeks the approval of that Divine Power.

No matter if you are in a marriage with someone you choose to be with or arranged by your family you must find it in your heart to reach for the love that Allah, swt, gives every moment and give that love to spouse and family. If anyone has the secret to developing that love than please sell it to the world so that we can all be better off.